It is said that “how one lives can be clearly seen on the face”. This is not nonsense! Whether a woman’s life is good or bad, she doesn’t need to say it herself, three obvious details have long “betrayed” her. This is not some metaphysical superstition, but the most tangible imprint of life. Just like the old saying goes, “It is easy to paint the skin but difficult to paint the heart”, a woman who lives a comfortable and nourishing life cannot pretend to be calm and composed; on the contrary, if a woman lives a twisted life and feels depressed, even if she pretends to be strong on the surface, the discomfort and small flaws can be seen by a discerning person. Today, let’s break it down and talk about these three “barometers” that can determine the fate of the world at a glance, and see what the truth of life is hidden behind them.
- It is clearly written on the face: time is ruthless? No, it is a “mirror of life status”!
A close look at a face is more accurate than any recorder! A woman’s face is not only a check-in point left by the years, but also a broadcasting station for the straightforward things in her heart.
What does a woman who lives a comfortable life look like on her face? Her skin is delicate, bright and shiny, and her eyes are steady and confident, revealing a sense of ease. Even if there are some wrinkles at the corners of her eyes, it is called “elegant precipitation”, which is not eye-catching at all, but adds to her style. It really fits the saying “time never defeats beauty”! Why? There is only one fundamental reason: the heart is open and there are not so many bad things pressing down. She is happy all day long, eats well, sleeps well and has a good body, and her qi and blood and spirit naturally come out from the inside out! To put it bluntly, this is the best “natural skin care product”, and no matter how expensive the cream or lotion is, it can’t match this nourishment from the inside out. If you live a good life, your face will be a “moisturizing and watery skin”.
What about those who don’t live a good life? Alas, the “report” on the face is not good. Fatigue and haggardness are almost welded on the face. Eye bags and deep wrinkles may show up early. The eyes are also covered with a layer of gray. I always feel tired with a little anxiety or helplessness. Why is it like this? Either it is too tired! I work hard for daily necessities, my husband and children, and my money all day long. I don’t sleep well and eat haphazardly. It’s strange that my face can be rosy and shiny. Maybe white hair will appear early to “reveal the secret”. Or it is too bitter in my heart! I have been depressed, angry, and wronged for a long time, but no one said anything. Then my face will naturally “collapse”, my eyebrows will be locked unconsciously, the corners of my mouth will droop, and the whole person will show a “sad look”. Life is tiring and my heart is bitter, and my face is like a “dry yellow land”.
Don’t judge it arbitrarily just by looking at the haggardness! Some sisters are covered by the sky when it falls. Even if they go through the wind and frost, the perseverance and optimism on their faces cannot be covered! Similarly, there are also those “rich wives” who have no worries about food and clothing but are desolate in their hearts. Their faces may be delicate but dull and empty. The key is not whether there are wrinkles or not, but to look at the “spirit”! People who live well have lively and bright eyes; their smiles are genuine and warm. What does this prove? The richness and fullness of the heart are ten thousand times more effective than any cosmetics! Whether life is good or not, the “spirit” has already written the answer on the face.
- The matter of dressing: It is not just a matter of face, but a “declaration of life attitude”!
Don’t think that wearing clothes is just for the sake of looking good, it is a clear “declaration” of a woman’s attitude towards herself and life!
How do women who live a fulfilling life dress? They may not be blinded by famous brands, but they are definitely comfortable, decent, and have their own style. The material and tailoring of the clothes are well-fitting, and the colors and styles are just right. Small details are never messed up – small jewelry that adds the finishing touch, neat and refreshing hairstyle, comfortable and refreshing shoes. The whole person looks energetic and tasteful, making people feel comfortable when looking at them! This kind of attention is not to show off wealth, but because people feel that they deserve to be treated well from the bottom of their hearts. This is called the attitude of controlling life! Women who live a relaxed life have a “sense of respect” for themselves in their attention to dressing.
What about those who are tight or messy? Dressing up may become the first “position” to be abandoned. Whatever you do, whatever you want to wear. Clothes are loose and unspirited, the colors are gray and uninspiring, the shoes are dragging and don’t fit the feet, and the matching is “staying wherever it’s cool”. There are too many reasons behind it: maybe the money bag is tight and there is really no spare energy to invest in clothes; maybe life is as busy as a war, and the energy is exhausted and just want to make do. Think about those mothers who spend all day around the stove and their children. They may go out for a stroll with an old T-shirt and a pair of slippers. Think about those professionals who are exhausted by work. They don’t have the energy to iron their wrinkled shirts and twisted pants… It’s not that they don’t love beauty, but that the focus of life has been squeezed to “coping”. How can they have the energy to take care of themselves? Dressing casually is a manifestation of “powerlessness” in survival mode.
Don’t just draw conclusions based on “simple”! Some women who live like poems just love the natural and comfortable style; some sisters have average conditions, but can use their hands to match new ideas and wear personality. “Intentional” and “unintentional” are the difference between heaven and earth! A woman who lives a good life must make herself “happy to wear” within her ability! What does this reflect? “Gentle and refined”, complementing each other inside and outside, is great wisdom. More importantly, the deepest code of dressing is “self-value positioning”. Women who are getting better and better in life will not always use “poverty” and “no time” as excuses to give up dressing themselves up. They understand: loving yourself is the starting point of a romantic life! They are willing to spend some time to study the style that suits them, and light up ordinary days with a favorite thing. How can this be just conceited? This is a passionate love for life and a silent declaration of “I am worth it”!
- The way she speaks and does things: you can’t pretend, that is the “inner energy transmission tower”!
The tone of her speech and the way she treats people are definitely the most real live broadcast window of her inner world. Whether her energy is strong or not, it will be revealed as soon as she opens her mouth!
What does a woman with an open mind and confidence look like? She speaks calmly, has a sense of propriety, and knows how to respect. She treats people generously and appropriately, and knows how to communicate. When encountering some bumps and bumps, she is not anxious or angry, she should solve them, work hard, and have a stable and optimistic attitude. Why is she so stable? Because they are rich in heart, have a full sense of security, and are full of happiness, they don’t need to suppress others or complain to find a sense of existence! This calmness can’t be faked, it is the confidence to control your own life! Women who understand life have a “stable aura” in their words and deeds.
What about those who are twisted in their hearts and dissatisfied with their lives? The “screen” of words and deeds will show garbled characters. They may speak like a fire, with a hard tone like a stone, or open their mouths and say “Oh, it’s so unlucky”, “I’m so annoyed”, “I’m so hard”… The whole person may also be flustered or timid, and self-confidence is obviously lacking. Think about those sisters who are dragged into “complaining women” by housework. As soon as they open their mouths, they can’t help complaining that their husbands are not strong, their children are ignorant, and their lives are terrible. Negative emotions are like floods; think about the sisters who are beaten to a slump in the workplace, and their voices are unconsciously lowered, lacking confidence. These are disguised expressions of the pain and exhaustion hidden in the heart that have nowhere to tell! Negative and cramped words and deeds are the signal lights of “fatigue” in life.
But we must know that the big turn of words and deeds is often a status alarm light! A person who was originally quite cheerful becomes taciturn, and a person who was originally quite gentle suddenly becomes irritable? Behind this, it is very likely that there is a hole in the relationship, the work is overwhelming, or the financial pressure is huge! At this time, don’t rush to blame her “why has she changed”, the most important thing to do is to ask: “Sister, are you okay recently?” Why? A calm mind is the foundation of words and deeds. If the foundation is unstable, how can the top not shake? What’s more amazing is that the energy of a person’s words and deeds is really contagious! Sisters who live a comfortable life are like small heaters, and you feel comfortable when you are close to her; what about those who live a depressed life? The low pressure in your heart, like an invisible dark cloud, will really “shroud” the people around you unconsciously. This is not to blame anyone, but the natural law of energy transmission. Only when you live your life openly can you illuminate others. Do you understand? Only when you live like the sun can you feel warm around you!
Want to make your life sweeter and sweeter? You must know these three tricks!
The truth has been explained, but it’s fake to just watch and not practice. If you want to live a bright life, the real skill lies in action! Here are three suggestions from the bottom of my heart:
Relax your mind and find some fun in the “trivia”: whether your life is comfortable or not, your mentality is the guiding star! If you keep the string tight all day, good things will turn into bad things. Learn the wisdom of our ancestors: “Watch the flowers bloom when it’s time to watch the flowers bloom, and watch the clouds roll when it’s time to watch the clouds roll”, accept that life has ups and downs! If you are tired of work, pick a book you like to calm your mind; if you are tired of housework, listen to a good song and look at flowers and plants; if you have a holiday? Even if you go to the suburbs to get some fresh air, it’s fine! Don’t just wait for life to become sweet, add some “sugar” to it yourself!
Putting “my mother’s happiness” first: Too many sisters live in frustration, isn’t it because they always put their husbands, children, parents, aunts and uncles before themselves? Stupid or not! Learn something: To love others, you must first have a full charge! Squeeze some time for yourself! Do a beauty treatment, learn how to dress more beautifully, cultivate a hobby you really like… You have to water the flower in your heart first, and when it blooms, the fragrance will naturally fill the house! Live a wonderful life, and you will be more motivated to run a family and fight for your career! Remember: you are the light that should be lit first!
When you encounter a mountain, you can open it, and learn “the water will turn if the mountain doesn’t turn”: a smooth life is a fairy! The key is what to do when you encounter a hurdle? Wait for it to flatten? Don’t dream! “When you are poor, you think of change, and change can get you through” – this is true wisdom! Frustrated at work? Learn new skills when you should, and think about changing platforms when you should; feel trapped in a relationship and can’t get out? Adjust your mindset, communicate when necessary, and seek help when necessary; feel lost in the future? Take the initiative to go out and find information and expand your circle. If you don’t move, the situation will always be the situation! Just like the bamboo in the wind, no matter how strong the wind is, it bends down to accumulate strength and then grows up! A woman’s tenacity is the brightest beacon!
Whether life is good or not, the heart has the final say
After all, whether a woman’s life is good or not, the gold standard is in her own heart! What you see outside are labels, and only you can taste the real taste.
The brilliance of the face, the exquisiteness of the dress, the measure of words and deeds, these are all superficial articles. But if you look at it, the bottom is her state of mind, her self-identity, and her choice and energy when facing life!
We may not be able to grab a handful of good cards for a perfect life, but we should play them well with whatever cards we have! Learn to relax a little, be better to yourself, don’t be timid when encountering things, and change a way to move forward. The bitterness of life can always be brewed into sweetness little by little.
Finally, I want to tell the truth to all the sisters who hold up half the sky: “Why do you have to compare the color of your flowers with those of other people’s flowers? No matter how I bloom, I am the most beautiful scenery on this hill!” No matter it is a delicate flower in the greenhouse, or a wild lily stubbornly popping out of the cracks in the rocks, as long as you recognize this beauty in your heart, your days are good days that deserve to be treated gently and kindly by time!
